I know that out there are many millions of people with good hearts, and with good attitudes and good intentions. Therefore to some of you what I have to say may sound rather pessimistic. That’s not my intention, because I’m convinced that in the end God wins, and His ways will prevail.

I have two sons, aged 23 and 20, who have the sweetest hearts that two young men can have. They are intelligent, considerate, caring, kind, talented, and godly. As if that weren’t enough, they are handsome and healthy. They both work hard to pay their way and to be independent. They both love life. They are also, thank the Lord, heterosexual in their outlook.

Where can they find suitable mates? Where are the young women who not only take care of their appearance, but are also kind, godly, unassuming, considerate and humble in their outlook? Where are the gentle, godly young women who are looking for gentle, godly young men? Alas, in our time, they are few and far between, particularly in a fairly remote part of the world. It seems to me, in my pessimism, that the bulk of our young women have been hijacked: stolen and given over to the lies of our time and to the ways of the Harlot.

Let me clear this up now: I am not LDS, or Catholic, and nor do I belong to any other particular denomination or persuasion except that of Jesus Christ, who said this:

“Haven’t you read,” …“that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6).

The latest few generations (including my own) have been taught to think that sex is love and love is sex. But as beautiful and as God-ordained as sex is, it is designed only as a part-a fulfillment-of the love feast of a godly relationship: it’s doesn’t work as the only basis for any lasting relationship or of society as a whole. That truth has been hidden and erased from our culture. And what’s the result? Do we see a world of deleriously happy young people as in Huxley’s vision of a Brave New World, overjoyed that they can’t have a lasting relationship and can’t be truly loved as a person; thrilled that they have to give their bodies away to some self-serving idiot who has not only used numerous others in the same way, but who will continue to do so?

I’ve lived long enough to see as one of the devastating results of what was once called the “permissive society”, legions of lonely older women and men who have painfully travelled the route of failed and casual relationships for perhaps decades, and who now are lonely, hardened, wisened, calloused, bitter, deflated and defeated. In an effort to remain relevant as physical objects they are defacing their bodies by the million with ugly tatoos, painted on by someone with no artistic talent and no scruples. Naturally they long to feel and appear significant in a world where almost nobody feels significant any more.

Now we see hordes of young women dressing to provide the allurement required by their culture, giving their bodies away to a series of people, and thinking that the answer to the problem of poor relationships because one gender can’t treat the other well, may be to seek the love of someone of the same gender.

Radical feminism didn’t encourage or even seek responsibility, love and commitment from the male-it brought division and separation. It encouraged men to be even more irresponsible and selfish. It divided families and societies. It denied people the opportunity for true love and put cheap, temporary, tenuous relationships in its place. Ultimately, because of the failure of the new way of life, it encouraged same-gender experimentation and then gender confusion.

MY CREDENTIALS

What has “free love” gained us? You can’t accuse me of being a prude: I’ve lived it myself. I’ve tasted the agony (yes, it turns to agony, sooner or later, for almost all of us) of that insane way of life that assumes that once you’re a little tired of some sex partner, who you once claimed to love and who claimed to love you; once someone else comes along who is more attractive or who may provide more pleasure or more money or more prestige, it’s time to switch. I can tell you from experience, it doesn’t work, though it may appear to for a time if you’re young and beautiful. It’s a devastating way of life. It destroys, it marks, it scars, it robs and yes, it kills.

Two young women out there, who now may even think they prefer their own gender, who could have two sweet young men to give themselves to for life-for better or for worse, until till death they do part-have been robbed of that enormous blessing by our disgusting, degrading, destructive culture of selfishness, and ultimately by the enemy of our souls.

I understand that sometimes one marriage partner makes it impossible for the other to continue: I am not judging that person, and neither does my God. But don’t tell me marriage doesn’t work. It does if you marry someone you first know to be principled and godly-hence the need for physical distance until you’re sure. It works if you both commit yourselves with life and limb to make it work. My parents were married for sixty three years, until they were parted by death,and that’s a common story in past generations. I thank them; I honor them and my God, for that commitment and that love, and for all those retainable and lovely memories. If you or your parents failed, you can find forgiveness and reset, but let’s not give up trying. Commitment is far better than an entire civilization giving way to casual and selfish passions.

Love is a commitment. It’s a determination that you will continue with one person no matter what happens. And when they do the same, you have an incredible, God-ordained union which in turn encourages the union of an entire society. It’s a decision to overcome your own temptations and weaknesses. It’s a decision to do the best for that person and to care for that person and to be kind and forgiving and merciful and…faithful.

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